Occasion HandbookWeddings 12 examples

Simple Wedding Vows

Forty-five seconds, four sentences. For a small ceremony, a registry office, or anyone who would rather not stand in front of a room for two minutes.

The four-sentence template

NAME, I love you.

I promise to ONE PROMISE.

I promise to SECOND PROMISE.

I will be here for all of it, for the rest of my life.

A finished example, about forty-five seconds

Marcus, I love you.

I promise to tell you the truth, gently, and on the day rather than the week after.

I promise to make you laugh at least once before breakfast.

I will be here for all of it — the good years, the boring ones, and whatever else turns up.

When short is the right choice

  1. 1 Registry office ceremonies, which are often under fifteen minutes in total.
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  2. 2 If either of you finds public speaking genuinely hard.
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  3. 3 Elopements and very small ceremonies, where two minutes of speech feels enormous.
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  4. 4 If the person you are marrying would prefer it. That is reason enough.
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How to cut long vows down

  1. 5 Cut the backstory. Keep one promise from each pair.
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  2. 6 Cut every sentence explaining a promise rather than making it.
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  3. 7 Cut the second joke.
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  4. 8 Read aloud with a timer. Forty-five seconds is about ninety words.
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Very short options

  1. 9 I promise to keep choosing you. Every day, on purpose.
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  2. 10 I will be honest with you, and I will stay.
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  3. 11 You are my favourite person. I promise to keep acting like it.
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  4. 12 I promise the ordinary days as much as this one.
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Questions people actually ask

How short can wedding vows be?

Four sentences and about ninety words is a complete vow, roughly forty-five seconds. Nobody has ever left a wedding wishing the vows had been longer.